Warning: VERY LONG. My SITCH. Is it too late?

[Ophelia]

I hope no one judges you. Speaking for myself, I only wish my WAH, who is currently having an A, will have a change of heart and want to put in the effort to try to come back and make things better. It's a tough path you've chosen, and it takes some guts to own up to what you've done for the sake of your marriage and your daughter. Hang in there!

I don't really have any advice, because I'm nowhere near the attempted reconciliation stage with my WAH, and don't even know if I'll ever get there. Have you got a copy of DR? There's a whole section on Infidelity, and part of it is written specifically for the spouse who strayed so they have an idea of how to handle things best.