Quote: Inititave is good for the early part of the R, but eventually the need for money kicks in, even it there is initiative but too few results.
OTOH, there are many men on this BB who make plenty of money but don't get laid. Also, as I recall there was a HD guy on this BB whose wife was morbidly obese and had had both breasts removed and not replaced and he was still yearning to f*ck her.
I think the healthy way to think about these issues is to simply realize that your partner's desire or lack thereof does not do a d*mn thing to change your actual objective level of attractiveness in terms of such things as physical appearance or money-making ability.
No HD person starts out posting on this BB by saying "I'm ugly and impossible to live with and my spouse doesn't want to f*ck me.". We all start out by posting something like "My spouse doesn't want to f*ck me even though I am attractive and wonderful. That makes me angry and frustrated." or "My spouse doesn't want to f*ck me and that makes me feel like I am ugly or unlovable and that make me miserable.". Somebody who actually was ugly and impossible to live with and was fully aware and accepting of the fact that this rendered him/her sexually unattractive wouldn't have to join this BB. Same is true for anyone at any level of objective attractiveness who was aware and accepting of their own personal reality in that regard. The ugly, ill-mannered person who accepts that life has dealt him cards and he has made choices that have rendered him ugly and ill-mannered is in no more need of validation than the beautiful, wonderful to be with person who is equally self-aware and accepting.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
