Part of this issue is that people really do have different aesthetics sometimes. For instance when I responded to my H's desire for me to dress more attractively by choosing to wear more youthful hip-hop style clothing, I got wolf whistles on the street but my H didn't like it. He likes it when I dress in what I would call "boring lady that lunches while her boring husband plays golf" style. Everybody wants to look good or should want to look good if they are caring for themselves but there is room for differences of opinion on the matter.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
