Well, I guess I'm a bit of a romantic because I think the whole appearance issue is one of those things that is true but not true. It's easier to love someone who is beautiful by objective standards but it's also easier to think someone you love or who loves you is beautiful even if they aren't so much by objective standards. That's why we are all so jealous when we see a shriveled up old couple in their 80s who still look at each other with love and even desire.
I mean if you gathered all the LD, much-desired,wives of the HD men on this BB into a room and you gathered all the HD, not-desired, wives on this BB and put them in the other half of the room, would you be able to tell which group was which based on appearance? I highly doubt it. I also doubt that you could figure out which group was which based on outward signs of sociability, shyness, bossiness, radical feminism or conservative/liberal tendencies. It's really sort of a mystery. I mean I am an averagely attractive 42 year old woman and there are men who could love and desire me and therefore find me beautiful or at least "beautiful enough" for their purposes-LOL. But that can change. We can make ourselves "ugly" in many ways in a relationship although usually we aren't conscious of the process; it's just entropy in action.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
