I have been at this as long as you. They can exhibit signs from more than one stage. But for the mlcer to clearly move on then they need to leave that stage completely. So your h needs to completely be out of replay. But the trick here is that they bounce around a lot. So even if it seems he is out of replay he may go back and forth for awhile.
As for success stories in this time frame well most posters leave the board before this time so we never know if they reconciled or not.
But it is up to you to decide if you are going to ride this out and for how long.
Mermaid,
This seems like a bad version of deal or no deal...So, they have to be totally out of a stage before they can move on. Wow ! This is deeper than even I thought. Seems like H may have a chronic case of having things too good for even himself. Lives with Mom rent free, comes and goes from my house under the guise of visiting the kids as he pretty much wishes. So, i have started to put a stop to him coming to my house as much and have started to off load some of the responsibilities of the children off on him. That has helped me set some boundaries . I just have to figure out how much longer I can take this type of one, two punch. This just sucks ...
