I have been at this as long as you. They can exhibit signs from more than one stage. But for the mlcer to clearly move on then they need to leave that stage completely. So your h needs to completely be out of replay. But the trick here is that they bounce around a lot. So even if it seems he is out of replay he may go back and forth for awhile.
As for success stories in this time frame well most posters leave the board before this time so we never know if they reconciled or not.
But it is up to you to decide if you are going to ride this out and for how long.
