Is it MLC? Not enough information about her back ground. Time will tell, and reading those resources will help you determine if it is.
You want answers, something solid, Answers you can believe will be few and far between if this an MLC. But as for something solid, the support from this board is an amazing thing.
Vent, rail, cry, journal here. With your wife, do everything opposite what your heart and gut tell you to do at first.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK