Forget him for now. Just take him out of the equation. He's still a mess, he's walking all over you, and you don't need him in this condition. If he wants to come back, tell him he can woo you, date you, do all the things one would do to win a woman, and maybe, MAYBE, someday you'll take him back.
Meanwhile, you have GOT to get a life for yourself that doesn't depend on him. I know this is tough, tough, tough with the little ones and little support. How would you go about this, and what would it look like? Focus on THIS instead of him, and you'll be way ahead no matter what happens with him.
- friends - you need healthy friends, not just guys who are hoping you're available. Women friends, older mentors, people who share common interests. Figure out how to go about this and get started. - work - face it, even igf he comes back his flakiness is such that you really can't count on him economically in the long haul. Time to get creative and figure out how you'll support yourself and your kids and get the kind of life you want to live.
- self-improvement. In the long run, if you want to have a quality guy in your life, you need to BE a quality girl. Intellect, exercise, appearance - you need to work on being all YOU can be, not wasting your talents brooding over the numbskull. What do you need to work on? How will you start? The university of YOU is now in session.
