Unfortunately cat03 he IS the BOY that she married. She's just not his favorite "toy" right now and he never has grown up (sorry, Em).
This is the one guy who has made me tell someone you can't DB this. He is toxic to his beautiful wife and 2 little girls.
Walk on, Emily. Get your child support, haggle visitation until you're sure the girls will be in a safe place when they visit and leave him to that little piece of trailer trash he's been messing with.
