Quote: When he came back, did you guys lay down any boundaries? it doesn't seem like he is ready to commit to anyone, neither you, the ow, nor take a look at himself.
I see this now too...BIG TIME!
He doesn't want to be here nor there but he wants us both to continue to love him and take him back when he f's up! I just don't know what to do....
When the internet screwed up he was in the middle of talking to her, then he couldn't get back online... and I guess she got angry and told him to forget about everything GOODBYE (crappy teenager drama) and he FREAKED OUT...and he screamed at me about it.
I'm soo frustraighted because I can see where this is a mistake...
I just found your post last night. You need to get out of this drama and worry about you and your kids. You really don't need another child(H) to take care of. He needs to grow up.
Thank You I think I just needed to hear it said from someone who has given up so much and tried soo hard.
He is gone.... Left this morning to stay with his Grandma until he can get "home" I am half relieved...but I still just want to cry. I am ready to be out of this relationship...but I will miss the person he was before this whole mess.
I am scared and confused and not sure how to proceed into divorce. I also am scared and worried because he is now threatening me with battles over everything....everything being the kids.
I am just ....hurt I suppose, and unsure how to proceed....
he's like a hurt animal, just lashing out and spitting venom, don't let him get to you, dont' let him scare you. He's being a coward, what w/the threats an all. He isnt' the man the married, it is sad but true.
You can make it
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
Thanks .... I know it's true.... I guess I was holding out for the man I married to come back...but he won't. And I guess she loves him for the man he IS so more power to them....
Unfortunately cat03 he IS the BOY that she married. She's just not his favorite "toy" right now and he never has grown up (sorry, Em).
This is the one guy who has made me tell someone you can't DB this. He is toxic to his beautiful wife and 2 little girls.
Walk on, Emily. Get your child support, haggle visitation until you're sure the girls will be in a safe place when they visit and leave him to that little piece of trailer trash he's been messing with.
Again Amy THANK YOU! I have been feeling soooooo guilty for "giving up" on the whole mess.
The Vet Assisant program is coming along slowly but surely! The girls are getting so big and keeping me so busy. I'm looking hardcore for a job right now..... It's just hard in the little area that I live in....
Child support has been arranged but he hasn't been paying.... Custody is going to be a whole nother can of worms ... he is living with his OW and her mother plus the fact that "they" know he is voilent (i.e. he punched me in the , but I still don't want to go through the battle....
My brother is going to help me pay for everything, I just don't know how to get the ball rolling.... any advice?
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