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I think the business partnership can be a path rife with pitfalls. I know your H is a major pain to you when it comes to 'dependability' and confindance that he wont just up and quit his job. If you read Deida, youll extrapolate that he is constantly striving to be shed of encumbrances and feel free. I would guess that your H would be ok with his job if he didnt feel shackled and beholden to it. Perhaps that feeling could come if he were able to relieve some of the pressure by having an alternative that the two of you were able to bring your respective strenghts too. If he were to commit to your joint venture 100% though he would likely just feel shackled and irritable by that too.




What you are describing here is more like how I function or dysfunction career-wise than how my H does. My H is a Type 4 but he tests second highest as a Type 6 - the organization man. He wants a job that serves his higher purpose or Type 4 passion but also one which provides him with structure and makes him feel needed. The job that he had that he liked best was being the office manager of a humongous bookstore in a college town. He got to hang out with artistic types and organize tons of paperwork just to his liking. He kept that job for many years and only quit when they restructured his job description in such a way that he was actually going to have to manage people rather than paper. Mostly, I think he quit because he was hurt because the destruction of his job description was sort of like a show of disrespect by the company for the contribution he had made.

The reason he hates his current job is that he simultaneously feels like it is beneath him because it meets none of his needs for artistic expression and yet he can never do it perfectly because it demands more physical/mental endurance then he is capable of in order to achieve that. He complains about how many of his co-workers slack off but I think "Yeah, that's what I'd do too." because it's the kind of job where management asks too much of the workers based on the assumption that the workers will slack off.

"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver