Mojo is 42

[MJontheMend]

Look into the adult attachment approach to see if there is some way you can get him to feel like you two are on the same team and he is not the outsider looking in.

I've been thinking about this some more because it just strikes me instinctively as being the right thing to do in my situation. The obvious example in my situation would be to become business partners with my H. However, I would need to do it in a way that he was "rescuing" me rather than vice versa or it will fail for reasons of male/female sexual psychology. The problem with this is that I don't really want to be in a situation in which I need to be rescued and I can't fake it. However, I believe that I've been having a healthy line of thinking that would get me around this conundrum but I would appreciate the input of the BB, especially the men, on the matter.

I am a Type 7 so I am very good at coming up with projects, like my business, and getting them up and running. My weakness is that I don't have sticking power because I am easily bored once I've mastered the learning curve of any activity. Actually, I used to say this was my "weakness" but after reading the book "Renaissance Soul" I understand that this is just how I am. I am a "jack of many trades master of none" but that isn't necessarily a bad thing. For instance, I never really finished the project of renovating our old house but I did learn how to do about 50 new things in the process and I did increase our equity quite a bit so I should consider the experience a success because of what I did accomplish, not a failure because I didn't achieve excellence or even completion.

OTOH, my H is the type of person who can't stand to do a half*ss job at anything. Most of the time that he is discouraged it is because he is thinking "If you can't do it right, don't bother.". He actually like routine because he can come closer to achieving perfection at activities which he has mastered by repetition.

So, my thought is that I should have my H "rescue" me by becoming my business partner and taking over the routine sh*t that s*cks all my energy away. I guess my question for the guys is would this be a role that would be psycho-sexually acceptable to a man? (I should note here that my H does already sort of behave in this manner when we are getting along well. For instance, he will do things like get the oil changed on my car for me or haul heavy boxes around for me or fix me a to-go cup of coffee before I leave for a sale.). My thought is that the more that I can respect what he has to offer in this way in terms of discipline, order, management of detail, the better the arrangement would work. The problem for me is that I have to get over a sort of sexist bias that I have that makes me think that the man should be the one who functions more like I do.