Mojo is 42

[MJontheMend]

I agree with the guys re your sich Lil. Unfortunately, I think you might have a double-whammy reaction with your BF because generally men AND Type 7s don't like the feeling that they are being rescued in some way because they value independence too much. For instance, if I was in a low-functioning mode and you offered to give me a wardrobe makeover and then you were all happy because I looked so much better after following your advice, I would be annoyed. If I was in a higher functioning mode, I would ask you for your advice and then celebrate with you about how great I looked after following your advice.

You need to imagine a Type 7 as having an inner child that is like a tough, fun-loving little street urchin that is getting by on his/her wits and/or dimples. Being rescued can feel too much like being reformed because the street is more fun than the school.

Also, you might want to read the book "Renaissance Soul" that I recommended. It might help you understand that some of what you might think is "low-functioning" in your BF is really just "different-functioning". For instance, if a Type 4 Mozart-type quits or resists taking piano lessons it would usually be a sign of low-functioning but if a Type 7 Benjamin Franklin-type quits or resists taking piano lessons it might just mean that he's ready for a new or different experience like experimenting with electricity or visiting France. Reading this book has made it so clear to me what I have to do to function on level 7 rather than level 5 as a Type 7.

I'm not going to kill myself. I just consider thoughts of it to be a bad sign. As if it's the only way out. I know it's not the only way out-- it's just that that's what comes to mind (Mojo, I'm sure this is the way your H's brain operates, too.)

I know. We had a convo recently in which I told him about an escape fantasy that I had sometimes which is that I would just park my car at one of the anonymous, cookie cutter service plazas off of I-80 and just sort of live there in limbo as an anonymous person. My H's reaction to this was to tell me that that was a pretty weak*ss escape fantasy.