Quote: I also think this requires firm boundaries to prevent her (and you) from slipping into enabler mode. Carrot and stick.
Well, Amen to that. I have this whole debate going on with myself about boundaries because I feel like there are some boundaries that aren't really boundaries because they are unenforceable. My thought at the moment is that anything that you expect anyone else to do to "take care" of you falls in this category. However, I feel like the kind of boundaries I need to work on that are enforcable are boundaries that allow me to take care of myself without interference. For instance, I need to figure out how to not let the fact that my H went off to work in a huff upset me to the extent that I spend two hours posting here instead of working on my backlog of rare book descriptions or just relaxing and reading a new novel. If I can figure out how to effect these sorts of boundaries then I can't possibly resent his behavior.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
