It is times like those that I wish we all lived near each other and could just go have a big "hen party" and not even fool with our significant others on special occasions like bdays. I begin to understand the "coffee klatches" and "girl vacations" of middle aged ladies that you see who meet to laugh, play, and just be themselves - for once. I always just assumed it was a "girl thing" - now I think it is a bunch of women who are making up for years of keeping quiet, bending themselves around others needs etc... I'm beginning to think that I just need to view my H as a kind of handbag - I like that handbag, it is an old favorite, a nice brand but sometimes it doesn't go with the outfit and on those days I leave it in the closet. No, I'm not looking for a new one but sometimes my outfit (mood) and H's don't mesh. None of this helps the very real issue of your H's continuing depression and job issues. For that I am sorry that there isn't a better answer.
Lil - I hate that too. Makes you just want to stamp your foot and scream but then again that would just be "evidence" that you are being juvenile. Ugly catch-22.
