Well, right now there is a big 'ole elephant in the room. She's wondering if you found it and is embarrassed. You are wondering if she is indeed wondering if you found it and that's why things are strained right now or if it's just the changing of the sheets.
Right?
So freakin ask her.
Write her a card and leave it for her to find when you leave.
Appologize again for the apartment mess up. Then let her know that things feel strained again and you are wondering if perhaps it is because she is wondering if you found her battery operated friend. Then nicely tell her that you in no way see anything to feel embarassed about. You certainly did not expect her to stop having pleasure while apart any more than you stopped.
you could also add that you've heard using batteried operated friends can be fun while your together as well.
also, just clearing the air.... you feel like there's an elephant in the room... you feel like an ----, hope we can move beyond and possible experiment with the idea when you get back......
Again, it's your call. Just offering another alternative.
