Working towards home

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I also have struggled a bit with my DBing and how much I am supposed to keep doing it

Hi Ian. My H and I have been "piecing" since 10th December. I think this is the hardest part and know totally where you are coming from with the above comment. It is very hard knowing how much to still DB. I have found it very difficult to remain detached and am finding it more difficult the further along we get, but my H has actually moved back in. The DBg techniques I tend to be keeping up best are "acting as if" and 180's. I also still do not contact my H first over anything even though I know he would be quite happy for me to do so. Its almost like that is now a habit! I can't believe I am saying this because I am really not handling this part well myself but you know how it is - you can give the advice better than you can take it - patience is crucial and you will need much more of it than you have already had to have. Congratulations on your change in sitch you deserve it. Good luck.