OK so it has taken me a few weeks to come into this forum. To be quite honest it is a little sacry leaving a forum that you have been in for so long and all the folks that you have counted on for all that time. So I have been reading quite a bit of what folks are posting in here and am aware that this is where I need to be in order to get the support that the W and I are going to need as we work back towards being together again.
My sitch has taken a very good turn, to give a breief synopsis, I had gotten quite fed up with all the games and on New Years day completely lost it and told my W to file. Unknowingly this was apparantely the trigger that she needed as she came to me 4 days later telling me that she was not done and does see the value in our R and M. We have since gone out on a few dates, made some future plans together, and had great conversations.
I layed it out there that I want to take our time and she agreed. We are still seperated and have a lease through July 2007 on an apartment so we are thinking we will keep it this way for now. She has made efforts to open up to me, and I am doing the same with her. We are trying to keep it in small doses as to not overwhelm each other.
I go through huge mood swings still, I can be happy as can be and then have some time with her and get very sad when we part ways. I also have struggled a bit with my DBing and how much I am supposed to keep doing it. For example I have told her that I love her and not gotten response back. Then I have also said it and she returned it. I did not intend to open that can of worms just yet, but couldnt help myself.
Anyway, I am just trying to prepare as I know that some of the road home will be bumpy and there will be issues along our path. I am looking forward to having the insight of all of those who have been traveling down this road for a while now and any advice is welcomed.
