Luke, most therapists will often ask general questions that will require thought processes. It's done, so that you come to the solution through your own self-realization. You will find that most people can be told a solution to a problem, however, will not take heed and follow it. If they come to grips with a solution in their own mind, through the guidance of a therapist, they tend to react more positively.
Remember one thing, they can get to know you, but may never see a spouse - a very hard area to judge with correct solutions. They are hearing responses from a third party of which is usually distorted.
You have several avenues to try. There are great books on the market addressing how to fight fairly with results.
You need to think what would make it fair for you to try and resolve the issues. Without losing your dignity and self respect, what would be the best solution for you?
Obviously her way is not even considered, since it would only cause you to end up divorced. If she doesn't bother to care for your feelings due to her own fears...it may be time to separate for a duration, which, if you feel that is something to share with your parents - then do so.
Post with how you feel that her issues will be resolved.
