My W and I have been going through hard times (see Confront her... here for details). This post is just to ask what you think of her ideas for a divorce:
o she wants to hide the D from my parents, in their 70s, to protect them and so that they have a good image of her. Is this right? It feels wrong to me.
o she wants the kids (s13, d8), she and I to still take vacations together, which seems unrealistic to me. Is it?
o she wants us to maintain our social circles, partly at least for the kids sake, so that the 4 of us still go to parties and similar together. This seems like not paying the bill to me (even though she would be moved out and be free to do what she wants).
o she wants to keep our house here and work in the garden, even though we would be divorced. This seems unfair to me, who might not want to see her much anymore.
What do you think? Are these ideas reasonable? After 3 years of abandonment and a now one year old affair (she and OM), I'd finally like some clarity and space (either we are together or we are not), and the above offer none of that.
Grateful for your thoughts (should it come to a D, it'd be nice to have defined the arrangements beforehand)
Luke
M58, xW54 S22, D18 M 1984, D 2016 Living a new life.
