I am sorry man. That and some change will buy you a cup of coffee…or is it tea over there? : ) Having her stay in the same house while she is having an affair is going to kill you. You will eat your own mind. You…already are.
These changes you are going to make in yourself, do not kid yourself, if you make them for her they will not last, they will be one of the first things you drop when you get sick of her…and you will.
You make these changes for you, re-evaluate what you want in life. Go back to school. “Oh I am too poor to go to school…” Yeah…suck it up, stop being poor in a couple of years, instead of still being poor in a couple of years. School is also a great place to meet new friends. It is a great place to occupy your mind, instead of not having anything to do in your flat, except eating your own mind with worry.
Nick…guess what? If you believe ANYTHING she tells you then you are a fool. This is coming from someone who didn’t listen to anyone here, and discovered he was a fool on his own. So from a fool…do not become one. She will lie to you…learn this. She lies to everyone including herself. So if she is lying to you…why do you need answers from her that aren’t going to be true? Stop asking them.
Let her live elsewhere, just not with your boy. She needs comfort, let her get a teddy bear.
Work on yourself. She is, if you want to survive this…dead to you. Your old wife is gone, this is the new one, she might come back, it might be better, time will tell.
Your friends say you have the patience of a saint…you don’t… not yet.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
