No i guest that. The reason I said that was because you said you forgave him the 1st time he hit you and I think you think I'm going keep hitting on my wife. Any way enough said I have already sought and got her forgiveness my punishment is not forgiving myself for what I did in a moment of sheer madness.
I feel like we are going round in circles here.
I don't need to know because I already do know who he is. Needing to know who the person was or asking questions of your spouse about the affair has nothing to do with forgiveness. You can totally forgive someone and still want to know details about the other person. Its got nothing to do with forgiveness and everything to do with healing and the need to understand. If I new nothing of MLC I would still be extremely hurt but I know she could not help herself. It's absolutely nothing to do with transfering anything. Its perfectly natural to dislike the person who was involved with your spouse. Nothing wrong with that. Not liking him has nothing to do with the feelings I have for my wife. She just happens to have been chased by a serial romeo. If it had not been him it would have been someone else probably because she's going through an MLC so she may have ended up chasing someone. It doesn't really matter. When you learn what MLC is all about and everyone who uses this forum probably has, you know your spouse is more than likely going to stray. You only continue to stand for your marriage if you forgive them or if you want to forgive them.
Anyway enough. I know I have forgiven my wife and I am not going to commit anymore time justifying myself to anyone that I have.
nick
Last edited by nickfromtheuk; 01/25/0702:04 AM.
me 41 her 40 kids (3) 19, 16 and 6 married 20 years, together 31 years since childhood
bomb Aug 06, affair started june 06 and still going on
