she's left my life has ended

[Bworl]

Nick,

Maybe I'm just not getting it, but you keep saying the same thing over and over, and I'm thinking that YOU must think since you keep saying it, it is true.

but there is no other choice ohter than for her to come home.

So i'm stuck. She has to come back ...

So there is my problem. She knows she has to come back and today was the first time in 8 months that I dared to tell her what she had to do...

...and she will be back home soon moping ...

We're assuming this is MLC, right?

Well, your MLC spouse must be drastically different from MY MLC spouse, because mine will NOT be told what she has to do, and mine DOES NOT CARE who will suffer for her decisions (INCLUDING her kids), and mine is DEFINITELY NOT going to listen to me tell her what she HAS to do.

Again, maybe yours is different...

And what's up with the attitude anyway? Your wife had an affair, didn't want to tell you who with, she's been mean to you and said hurtful things...and so your response is to give it right back?

A bit of a conflict inside, eh? In the same post you say these two things...

...I still love her just as much.

and

What a selfish cow.

and

Help cause I'm stuck with her ...

So, to summarize...

1. You insist that your wife MUST come home as though she has no choice, something that a MLC spouse will NOT tolerate being told.

2. You are in love with your wife.

3. You can't stand your wife.

4. You've got a TON of pent up anger inside about all of this.


Hey, we all understand the conflict in 2 and 3 because I'm sure most of us have felt the same way. They drive us crazy, we'd like to beat them over the head, but we love them. And most of us have anger (4), but usually not to the point that we are physically aggressive with our spouse.

Nick, I think you have some reading to do. And maybe a little emotional preparation for when your wife tells you that she's not coming home, no matter what you say.

Again, maybe I just don't get it.

Blessings,

Bill