she's left my life has ended

[nickfromtheuk]

Simon,

I know what its like in a loveless marriage as well. I don't want her back on those terms and to be honest its not her i'm saving from ruin its me and the kids. They are our debts.

I have told her I do not want her to come back if she is not going to try and she says she isn't (MLC Really coming out there) but I have told her in no uncertain terms I expect her to try and I will be kissing her and holding her hand etc because I am not willing to put up with her infecting us all with her negativity. I don't have any other choice other than to tell her what is going to happen. I have to do the polor opposite of what I should be doing and am going to have to make her comply. She said "so when we have sex you want me to pretend I love you" Thats an amazing step in the right direction because instead of spurning me she is actually thinking that we are going to have to have sex at one point.

So really I don't know what to do. I think the best option is really for me to insists she trys and see where we get. She has accepted she's goto come home but she is refusing to find any happiness.

Nick