I see a pattern here...LSS is living with a drug addict, is probably an addict himself, got the car repossed and is living on the scraps other people throw him.
Oh well
We can not save them.
Nick...I hear your anger and frustration and desperation. When LSS left, he cleared out our bank accounts and left me with 7 moths worth of unpaid bills, in a house that cost $800 a month when I made $600. With two little boys he swore he loved as his own. With 31 bats. With missing dishes (he tool random objects so I never had enough of anyting) tryingto find a babysitter for my two kids so I wouldn't lose the job I had. To pay for the sitter with negative money.
It sucks.
This is where the fight starts...the fight for you and your kids...where you can't really think of them or your marriage because you need to figure out your life and live it so your kids have a sense of stability and unconditional love...so your kids see what courage is...so your kids find their inner strength too.
You learn to be humble. You ask everyone you know for help. You swallow your pride and remember that your kids need you to do this. You find that your friends are more than willing to help you...in fact, they were waiting fo ryou to ask because that is what friends do...they help you. You learn to shop in dicey areas because things are cheaper and you learn to make do without a lot of stuff. You beg the utility companies to make differnt payment plans with you becuase you are in a really rough patch.
Almost a year later, I look back on that point in my life and cry...it was so hard but I was given so much. I learned who my friends were. I learned ho wmuch they valued me. I learned how strong I really am. I learned I am complete on my own. I learned that sometimes life really sucks and sometimes it is not even remotely how we planned it. I can find small things that we celebrated (like bagging ad tagging 31 bats) and that when you think things can't get worse, sometimes they can (like when I lost my meager paying job and was jobless for two weeks) I learned that courage is sometimes admitting how much you need something (like whenI literally walked into a job interview and begged for job...any job...pay didn't matter because any pay was more than the no pay I was making)
Today...I am able to see blessings every day because I made a conscious effort to see them even when it was bleak. What a gift that is!!!
I moved away from everyhting I knew (only 2 hours but still) started a new job...the perfect job for me. My children are happy. Of course they miss their "dad" but they are quite secure in the fact that I would move mountains for them. I am in a better financial situation than I ever was before (not oodles of money but I can pay all my bills) I am at peace.
You will get there. She may get there, but you can't do it for her...you can't make her SEE. SHe has to do it...all on her own. Silently root her on. Pray for her to find it. Speak kindly of her. Let her do it on her own.
