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Nick,

Your honesty is...scary but amazing.
So in that vein.
Let me be brutally honest with you.

Lots of people who have been doing this for awhile are telling you several things. Things you are not doing.

People are telling you to stop pressuring your wife.
You're aren't stopping.

People are telling you you REALLY do not need to know who the OM is.
You say you do.

"A fanatic is someone who redoubles their efforts when he has lost sight of his goal." George Santayama

Your goal is your marriage. But your efforts are in bugging the crap out of and badgering your wife.

No one on this board is going to say, "Good job Nick! Way to go for getting her to admitt who the guy was!"

Right now your focus is in all the wrong areas.

Your answers may or may not come in time. But I will tell you this you will not get them now, nor in the way you are trying.

The grass is not greener on the other side.



Pay attention, Nick.
Or you will push her further away than she already is and she'll stay there longer than you can imagine.


AmyC