You know what, sweetie? She was gonna leave anyway...no matter what you did or did not do. Sometimes they gotta do that...just let her go and you will be surprised how her being out of the house will be better for you and your kiddos.
So take a deep breath, sweetness, and be ready for what the day brings. It will hurt for a while...but one morning you will wake up and you will be thankful that she has left to spin, spin, spin in her crazy world. here is your big chance to make changes for you...for your kids. remember, this is NOT ABOUT YOU. It is about HER. She has to go through this for whatever reason...don't even ask why because there are no easy to find answers... all of us have been there or are going through it right now. She is gonna try to change your history and blame EVERYTHING on you...but it's only becuase she is in a fog and everything is upside down.
Your job is to be there for your kids...to be there for YOURSELF. Now is the time to do things for yourself and your kids...you must be the lighthouse for your W and the rock upon which it stands for your children.
YOUR LIFE HAS NOT ENDED...this is just another chapter, albeit, not a fun one...but in time, you will see the opportunities this "break" from her and her madness will afford you.
Please come back often and tell us how you are doing...
Hugs, Valentine
Aug '06: H moved out July '08: H had a kid with the OW May 12 '09: emancipation day
"Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it." -Ferris Bueller
