Well, patience is the key. Also, your marriage will be better if he reaches a point where he's absolutely certain he wants you and the kids (no fence sitting!). Give him time and space and focus on you right now. Have lots of fun with the kids, take photos (so he can see what a great time you guys are having!), look fabulous, have a comfortable home, go out with girlfriends, do 180s and GAL!!!! When he's around smile alot and be a great listener, ask non-personal questions about work and other stuff (avoid anything remotely OW). Be generous and kind in a "friend-like" no expectations way.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
