Hi. Having a dropout is much easier in some ways. You just have to be ready to get some points in when you have the chance. It is easier because you do not know the ins and outs of their R. It is easier because they can realize much faster that their choices are the cause of bigger problems then the problems they were escaping. It is easier because the affair becomes like all the bad parts of the marriage faster. Take the garbage out......etc. They do not have to spew at you. They get to spew at OW, ( I am hoping about that one). So even though it is harder is some ways, it is easier in others. Bookpusher has a real dropout. She and I talk and she has so little to go on. 180's? Very hard to judge. The best thing to do with a dropout is do what is right and good. Be kind and generous with them, and know you will not see any results The results will come when this is over. Then we will find out how our actions influenced what where they end up. Still not through this, so this is only my point of view and beliefs. Please feel free to challenge me, I am only saying what I believe MAY be happening, Hope this is what you wanted, Holly
Bomb 1/06 D dismissed 11/07, attempt reconciliation. Premature. Divorce final October 31, 2008. OW looks like bad history. Over. Still hopeful. Baby steps. In R with my X.
