Quote: Please help me get control - is there still hope for us?? What do I do I can' eat or sleep and I'm losing it!!
It's hard when they keep waltzing in and out of your life. Giving you hope, then dashing it, giving it, dashing it, giving it, dashing it. It's a very familiar pattern to all of us who have been through this.
The trick is not to get your hopes up when you do see positive behavior out of him. Act "as if". This could take a long while to sort out so don't read to much into anything he says or does. Just because he talks D, doesn't mean he's going to do anything about it.
I can rest your mind over one item and that is the younger OW. No matter how much he tells you she understands this or that about him, it's crap! Believe me when I tell you he's not seeing her for her wisdom, understanding, or emotional support. There are needs she's not going to be able to give him and that's where your advantage is. I say this because I've been there and done that. He's not thinking about a future with her so get her out of your mind.
Try to find a way to bleed off some of this anxiety your feeling. Read a book, exercise, take a hot bath, do something nice for yourself. Don't let the thought of him consume you.
There's always hope and there is proof of that on this site.
Whenever i am under this kind of stress, I masturbate.
Ian helped me out, and now I'm helping you out.
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Sex with myself has never been so good!
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Just joking babe, lighten up, there IS light at the end of the tunnell
