First, I'm sorry you find yourself here. It sounds like you are going through a very hard time, and we all can sympathize.
You haven't posted too much as to why you think your H is in MLC, although I'm not sure that matters so much right now as far as your side of the story goes.
One thing about your first post really caught my attention. About ML--I know you know that having sex has little or nothing to do with committed, mature, love, and it definitely does not for most men. As I read your post, it sounds like you thought he was re-commiting to you when you ML. IMO, nothing could be further from the truth, except in a marriage that is already very mature and going very, very well. This "exception" leaves out most of us currently posting on this BB, sigh.
I think it is entirely up to you and your emotional condition whether or not you continue to have sex with H, but I'm concerned that are you confusing it with anything except what it is. And it sounds like it might be upsetting you and giving you a wrong signal.
Sounds like you have a good handle on how to DB otherwise, and all I know is to keep DBing, keep posting, pray for your H and work on yourself!
