What is it with the 30's

[Ophelia]

Thanks for the support Astimegoeson. I started another thread on here which has the brief paragraph he included at the end of an email, revealing the OW. He followed it with, "Have a good weekend." Hilarious!

As far as I can tell, since he moved out, he's been spending very little time alone. He's always got something on with friends. His mum has told me that they hardly ever see him. They leave his dinner on the kitchen bench each night, but he gets in so late that he doesn't feel like eating then, so he'll just take it to work for lunch the next day.

He went out on this great big new journey of self-discovery, and yeah, I'm pretty sure he has been living the rockstar life. I doubt he's had much time on his own to actually sit down and think about what he's doing and what he's done.

As for his debt, that won't get any better anytime soon, because he's planning on going to Africa to climb Kilimanjaro on his 30th birthday, (he decided months ago that he wanted to do it before he turned 30), which is in Oct of this year, and he'll have to take out a huge loan to pay for that.

You stood by the "old" him and he will think of that sooner or later.

I'm standing by the "new" him as well. He knows full well that I haven't given up on our marriage. He may be treating me like crap right now, but I realise that he's going through a big life change at the moment, so he isn't acting like the man I know he really is, and the man he really wants to be.

I'm telling myself that I just need to wait it out and he'll eventually start to come to his senses. It just sucks not knowing how long that wait is gonna be.