You sound like you are frazzled today a bit, and that is totally understandable!
Don't worry your self right now with percentages, or with what "STAGE" they are in.
K, all you have to do is take care of you.
HAve you read the DR book?
HAve you read the link at the top of the page.
Do you have children?
Give us informations about you.
Then it will be easier to help.
Some come out of the Fog and some don't!
I know it sux to be in this.
But here we are, for some reason, here we are.
Now we have to find the reason that we are here. God has not abandoned us, so the reason that we are here, might just be b/c we have to look at ourselves and grow from this, and become the best person that we can be
“Pray as though everything depended on God. Work as though everything depended on you.”
Your right, I feel panicky today. I am a very impatient person and i want my wonderful husband back. I have three children, 2, 12, and 15. My H was having an emotional affair with his secretary which just recently turned sexual. I kicked him out of the house 7 weeks ago and he lives close by. I filed for divorce to wake him up. I have been following all the DB techniques flawlessly. It has been hard. My last contact with him was yesterday. He called and invited me to have dinner with him at his place the next time the kids had visitation with him. He has changed into a completely different person, i.e. spending sprees, adultery, odd irrational behavior, thinking about immortality, blaming me for everything, forgetfulness. He told the kids that we all would still be doing family vacations and activities together that nothing much would change. When he sees me at the kids activities he tells me how good I look (which he has not done in months). It all is so confusing and weird. I don't know if he wants this relationship or his OW or the family or what. I hate him for what he has done to the children.
