I have a question. This morning my MLC husband completely forgot to pick his daughter up to take her to day care. I have noticed he forgets alot. Is "forgetfulness" a symptom of MLC????
Sugar, here's a tip. Don't start a new thread every time you post. It makes it hard to follow your situation if you have multiple open threads. Just keep going with the same one, until it locks.
In my experience, forgetfulness is a big MLC symptom. They will forget little things, like doing something they said they would do, appointments, dates, etc.
I thought at first that mine had Alzheimer's.
But they also forget big things, like the fact that they ever loved you. That you had a good life together before. That they wanted to marry you. That they pursued you. That they wanted children.
I think on closer monitoring over time you will see it is a combination of two mlc traits.
1. Yes, they forget and don't even know it. We don't know why cuz when we ask them, they don't remember.
2. They do exist in a different time (zone) warp. Their mental and biological clocks have virtually stopped. Their existence is without a timeline, other than the last thought that crossed their mind, or the timing of the next entertaining event they have become focussed on in advance. We would consider it a distraction. They consider it their reason for living.
Notice I refer to them as existing, they think they are living. Are you beginning to see the conflict in behavior vs expectations?
More and more you will read posts by people who have ceased to depend on their MLCer to do things on time that they are supposed to, or to even help with the family needs in general. Trying to enforce adherence can become more exhausting than just making other arrangements and concessions of your own.
I hope you can make some adjustments that work with your H, without having to just leave him alone to his free will.
