He said he's seeing someone new

[Ophelia]

So I did go and call his mum. I apologised for dragging her into it, but said that he won't listen to me, and the only person I can think of that maybe he will listen to is his mother.

I said that before we separated he said he was prepared to face the consequences, whatever they were, and now he's just tacked onto the end of an email that he's having an affair, then he runs and hides from me for the whole weekend so he doesn't have to face up to it.

She asked me if he'd actually used the term "affair" in the email. I said of course not, because the way he's justifying what he's doing is by telling himself the marriage is over. But we are still married, so yes, he is having an affair, whether he's willing to admit it or not.

I blurted out with a certain amount of venom that he'd probably spent the whole night at her place, and he probably did that because I sent him a txt asking him to call me when he got home, so he probably figured if he didn't go home, he wouldn't have to call.

She said that she wasn't sure where he'd spent last night, but I may well be right, and that he does quite often spend the night at different people's places.

She said she was pretty sure he had OzTag, (a form of touch football) training this morning, and she said she'd definitely speak to him when he got home because she agrees that he does owe me an explanation. She said maybe we should hash it out in a counselling session. I said that would be fine by me, but I don't know that H would be interested.

She didn't sound at all angry with me, which is good. I think that having been there herself, she can understand what I'm feeling right now. At the same time of course, she wants to defend her son, so she's really in a tough situation.

I don't like badmouthing H to her, but at the same time, I think it's important that she realises just how badly he's treating me, because I'm sure she doesn't get the same side of the story from him.

To be honest, I want her to know the truth and be disappointed in him, because I think that if his mother (who he loves to death) is disappointed in him, that may be a wakeup call for him.