In other words, affairs just happen? It's nobody's fault? I haven't read one reply here where someone mentioned that they might have, even in the slightest bit, mistreated their spouse. Blaming your family's history or the subconcious doesn't hold water with me either.
Nikki. 100% right about affairs not being the answer to marriage problems.
I was simply giving some rationale for the justifications that the WAS's who have affairs use. I never said their justifications were valid and that we should accept them as a reasonable excuse for having an affair.
There isn't one post on this thread that doesn't hold a good amount of truth to it. The fact is, there are too many circumstances to list to entail ALL of the answers everyone here is seeking. I am simply pointing out the most common.
I sense a lot of bitterness toward the SO's on this thread also. Hell, I was there not more than six months ago. I do know that if you don't let go of it, things won't improve.
