Quote: [hen he said, “you’re just jealous”, I said, “it’s not that I’m jealous. I realize that this (situation) is what it is. I accept that. I just want you to know that I strongly prefer to have you be up-front and honest about it than not.”
Great answer!!!! And good for you making sure the trip went well. I always think, no matter what the future holds. If my husband does decide to leave again in the future I'm going to make sure he takes good memories of me and our marriage with him!
In my own marriage I've found it reassuring that OW is in a different state. If you can get a good friendship and physical relationship going with your husband then I think OW can only fade into the background. I think with distance that physical aspect can be key (especially to men).
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
