Stop Standing Still Already

[trytoohard]

I feel your pain with regard to sensing the OW in the room with you during intimate moments. I asked my H a few weeks ago "who are you with right now?" as we began to ML and he said "you." I then told him that I felt she was in the room and he replied "if she is here, it's because you brought her here, not me." I have asked my H to keep his eyes open and look me in the face/eyes while we ML so I can watch his expressions. This alone has changed my thoughts on having 'her' in the room with us. I did remind H that he is the one that brought this third person into our R and that I have a right to feel the way I do and he agreed. Give him a chance, banish her from your marital bed and approach it like you ARE the other woman only it's perfectly OK since your married to him.