Well, it feels like a real leap of faith to be firing up a thread in this forum - but I guess that's what I like about it. I know there's plenty left to do, and no guarantees, but I feel the need to make that mental transition.
Here's the post I made recently that convinced me to jump over from Newcomers:
Quote: Had a good conversation with W last night.
I came home from class to find W and D14 at each other's throats over something D14 was supposed to do, but didn't. D14 has been really b!tchy for the last few days, so W went to her myspace page to see if she could get some insight. D14 had posted that one thing on her mind was the fear that W and I would announce at any minute that we were splitting up. (Note: D14 is your typical oblivious-to-everything-the-parents-do teenager.)
W: I guess I ought to talk to her about that.
Rob: So... what would you tell her?
W: (smiling) You're fishing...
Rob: (thinking NO SH!T but keeping the tone light) Yeah, you might say that...
W: (after a long pause) I would tell her that things are going better, but that I'm still not completely happy. However - and it took me a long time to come around to this - I realize that most of what I'm unhappy about has to do with me and not you.
We talked some more, but that was the Big Moment. W told me once again that she would like to see me "leading" more and used our ballroom dancing to illustrate that (see, it's not all in my head! ) I told her I felt I was doing a lot better with that, although I knew there was still room to improve, and she agreed with what I said.
So, I now have heard one of the two things I've been waiting for from W, that she plans to stay. (The second, of course, is ILY - but I have faith that will come in time.) Sure, it wasn't "everything is perfect and all of our problems are solved and I'll never have doubts again" - but I wasn't expecting that.
I like to name my threads after song lyrics that resonate with me ATM:
But now that you've come back Turned night into day I need you to stay.
So now I come to you, with open arms Nothing to hide, believe what I say. So here I am with open arms Hoping you'll see what your love means to me Open arms.
Rob
Thread #10 22 year M, MLC, Piecing since 1/07 Goal: Live with confidence & enthusiasm!
) I told her I felt I was doing a lot better with that, although I knew there was still room to improve, and she agreed with what I said.
