Sorry to hear your story and sorry to see you here.
I'll quote you in bold:
I do want to restore this 20 year marriage, but only the correct way.
OK, so...
......and filed for divorce.
This seems a little bit different approach to saving your marriage? Any thoughts on putting a stop to that?
wanted to know if I would come over to his place for dinner one night. He did not sound like his usual cocky self but rather quite humble. I told him I would consider it. Should I go or not??
Well, what good does it do to not go? Suppose he's been having second thoughts? And you reject his approaches to you. Then what? What harm does it do to find out what he wants? Worst case is you show up and he says he also wants D, in which case you've already filed, so nothing changes. But maybe he's going to tell you he wants to work on things, he feels sorry, etc., etc.
If you didn't go and missed finding that out, how would you feel?
If I did go, though, I'd make sure to prepare my mental state for anything and everything that might come, all the way from the best to worst extremes.
Also, I wouldn't go if:
There is any reason for you to fear for your physical (and/or mental/emotional) safety. I suspect not, based on your post...
Take care,
S_O_T_S aka: Stoic_On_The_Surface
I can't quite get there cause my heart's forsaken me - KT Tunstall
