Quote:

She's almost home...tomorrow night she will sleep with me.

To be honest, I have been on a "minor" roller coaster this past week, but doing things with the kids and around the house has kept me pretty busy, and I didn't get into a deep funk that much. Like I said, I got down a few times but pulled myself back up. It was her phone calls that kept me going every day, that plus my little one. I can't let her down. Our kids need us more than we think. And they are smarter than we thank too. Bless their little "big" hearts!!!!

I know what you mean about the special bond you had, the innocence is lost, tarnished. We have to build a new R, it's the only way. We have to rediscover our spouses. I am very fortunate that my W wants to do this now, and just a few months ago it wasn't her I was M to, it was the alien. I hate that part, and my W knows what she did, I think her guilt is causing her to blow up whenever I bring up that insane time. So I try not to talk about it but more importantly I try no to THINK about it.

It's time to build a new relationship - if your H is willing, I think the best sign here is that YOU want to try. THAT is GOOD!!! Remember he's the "betrayed" spouse, and the anger is from the hurt he's feeling. You said you need more advice on what to do. Actions DO speak louder than words. Can you tell me the things you've done that worked in helping your R? I'm still working on finding my W's Love Language so that we can better connect...



I started making him lunch. We both lost a lot of weight during the "bomb dropping". Now, he wants to put some weight back on. I gave him a foot rub the other night, he seemed to enjoy it-very much so. We have been taking morning baths together, but sometimes this backfires into discussing R.

I'm thinking his LL is quality time and physical touch. However, we run into trust issues when we aren't doing these things. When we talk, he still thinks that I'm hiding things from him. And that causes blow ups.

Good for you re: tonight. Remember, not to push her and give her space when she gets in. Do small things for her, to make her comfortable. (and don't forget to thank her for the gifts! woo hoo, tequila!)