Cheater needing assistance

[~Sol]

She's almost home...tomorrow night she will sleep with me.

To be honest, I have been on a "minor" roller coaster this past week, but doing things with the kids and around the house has kept me pretty busy, and I didn't get into a deep funk that much. Like I said, I got down a few times but pulled myself back up. It was her phone calls that kept me going every day, that plus my little one. I can't let her down. Our kids need us more than we think. And they are smarter than we thank too. Bless their little "big" hearts!!!!

I know what you mean about the special bond you had, the innocence is lost, tarnished. We have to build a new R, it's the only way. We have to rediscover our spouses. I am very fortunate that my W wants to do this now, and just a few months ago it wasn't her I was M to, it was the alien. I hate that part, and my W knows what she did, I think her guilt is causing her to blow up whenever I bring up that insane time. So I try not to talk about it but more importantly I try no to THINK about it.

It's time to build a new relationship - if your H is willing, I think the best sign here is that YOU want to try. THAT is GOOD!!! Remember he's the "betrayed" spouse, and the anger is from the hurt he's feeling. You said you need more advice on what to do. Actions DO speak louder than words. Can you tell me the things you've done that worked in helping your R? I'm still working on finding my W's Love Language so that we can better connect...