Quote: I honestly don't know at this point, but I hope to find out. My W's A is still ongoing, so I guess the first step wuold be convincing me that it is over. NO contact, return all the gifts, be open and honest about why and how long. Show remorse. I think just like DBing, alot of it would be just time and consistency.
Sorry, no great insights.
81388: That's OK. Anything helps. I did stop all contact with OM. I threw away all gifts. I continue to reiterate that the OM relationship was 'fantasyland' and not reality. What I need to do is find ways to let my H know that even though I walked away from our M and him that it wasn't because of who he is/was. Our M wasn't perfect, but he was a loving H and I took him for granted BIG time. HUGE! Any woman out there would kill for someone like him and I threw it away.
Thinking about it makes me want to cry. Every time we discuss it, I usually end up doing just that....I'm afraid I'm becoming a pathetic mess.
