I am so sorry for being gone.... The holidays caught up with me and I found myself wrapping gifts until 4:30 am Christmas Eve!!!!
STBXW certainly drummed up some drama around the holidays that I tried to deflect a little. It didn't really bother me that much. Kids were also sick during the holidays as well and I spent as much time as I could GAL. I have met someone who I spend a little time with now. She is a very special person and I am enjoying the time I get to spend with her. Before anyone asks, I was 100% honest with her upfront about my sitch so she is well aware of what is going on in my life. Honesty is the best policy!!!
In addition, I did make it out to Mall of American in MN with the kids. They did awesome in the car and we all had a great time. I even got to me Fig and her boys ("the brothers" as my D6 calls them). We all had a great time (well except for the cheeseburger incident, but that is another story that I don't wish to visit...). It was so nice to meet her and her boys. Anyone up for some Cheese Curds?????
So far, 2007 has been a great, but very very busy year. D settlement stuff is coming to finality, but I did face some major setbacks and more threats from crazy STBXW. That stuff is the most difficult to deal with right now. I think we are getting close to finishing this. For me, the sooner the better. I have suffered through this enough.
I don't know that I would say I "took my gloves off" in regards to dealing with STBXW, but I certainly said somethings that have been needed to be said in a long time. You would not believe how crazy she was - first accusing me of having a GF in MN (Fig) and second, the repeated statements of "the person you hook up with in the future, the kids might now like" or "your future W will be a witch, and that might be a problem for me" or ".....fill in for yourself".
So I did it. I couldn't hold my tongue any longer. I let her have it and the good news is that at the end of me "letting her have it" was that I steered the convo back to being cordial and it ended well. Damn - did that feel good!!!!
I did it again yesterday as well. STBXW is bring the kids around him all of the time. Of course she justifies it as "he is their uncle" to which I respond "of course he is you freakin' idiot. That is why you shouldn't be dating him." I asked her to stop spending time with him and the kids together by asking her to put herself in my shoes. What if I brought my girlfriend around the kids right now - a) how would she like it and MOST IMPORTANTLY b) IS THIS WHAT WE SHOULD BE EXPOSING OUR CHILDREN TO RIGHT NOW!
She is delusional and I really hope she gets the help she needs some day. She has been a better mom lately, but she is still entirely selfish and is thinking only of herself. She even had the audacity to say that D11 said "Maybe Uncle J should D Aunt J and marrying Aunt K (my sis who's XH is dating STBXW)." STBXW thought this was cool she said this. I said how sick and twisted that is and that STBXW should be worried that D11 doesn't have a handle on what a healthly R/M should be. BTW - kids don't really know their Mom is dating XBIL.
Also, for ease, I learned from my sister that she calls her XH (XBIL) "Jack" - short for Jacka$$! I thought this was fitting, so I shall refer to him this way as well. In addition, more fitting would be to complete by STBXW "Fairy tale delusions" by deciding to call her "Jill". So "Jack and Jill can go up the hill to fetch a pale of water.....". Fitting I think!
My fortune for 2007 was as follows....
"The most wasted day is one in which we have not laughed."
For me, this could not have been more fitting.....
I will try to catch up with everyone. I am so sorry I have been away so long. The holiday busyness, GAL, difficult work schedule, and illness really are to blame. Many have tried to reach me to see if I'm okay. Now you know the answer. I did have to have an absess under the skin drained yesterday (I have some kind of boil/infection - I know - it's nasty). I hope it goes away soon, because it hurts like hell!!! Other than that, I'm doing just fine...
I continue to charge forward in life....A life of my own making...A life in which for the first time in a long time, I am at the helm.....
