Thanks for sharing what I know must be unpleasant to even revisit. It helps me quite a bit in my present state. I have told myself I have “let go” and I even forgave her, face to face. And then, I have feelings that tell me I haven’t let go and often feel like I am taking back my “forgiveness.” (X has soooo moved on: she signed a 2 year lease, the D became final three months later and then X went and had her tubes tied).
When we “act as if,” the feelings follow so I will continue to “act as if” I have really let her go and that she is forgiven.
”Letting go” turning into anger and rage? More of a question for anyone. When “letting go,” I wonder if the way people achieve this is by getting and staying angry with their X’s.
It seems like it would be harder to “let go” while maintaining a cordial relationship (for the sake of the kids) because then we would start drawing out reconciliation scenarios in our mind.
Just something I've been thinking about.
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