After posting and then reading some of the follow up posts, I was refreshing to see that there was no interest in an R, but only the desire to have a R as it relates to the kids, grandkids etc. (in my case X and OM say they want to be “Kumaya-like” so I guess I am fortunate in that regard).
Quote: I took a long, long time. Stood for my M for a long time, finally reached the point when I no longer felt that I could. It is all a very personal timeline - that I learned.
Barb, if you don’t mind me asking, what turned the light bulb on? I feel like I’ve “stood for my marriage” since my X told me about her first affair before I joined the DB board. Affair #2 with a different OM after years trying to “make her happy” tells me that I am unnecessarily wasting emotional energy even pondering leaving the door open for future reconcilitaion if she ever has an epiphany.
Just wondering what made it click for you.
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