I can't add much to what has already been said. If it is a reconnect then I think it will take a long time. Your xh will proceed very slowly and then get scared and retreat many times before he really reconnects. But all you can do is go with it and see where it all leads.
It is funny you mention closure (or lack there of). I was just thinking I would really like some closure and I have to find some way of just accepting everything without expecting closure.
I hope you are feeling better. Get plenty of rest.
