Quote: Still, we all want some kind of apology or affirmation from them sometime somewhere that they regret their actions. I know that not many of us will actually get this, but at some time down the road - it really would be nice. Wishing for too much?
Yep.... I still think that some just will never admit it. They can't, doesn't mean they don't feel it. I do think sometimes it would be nice to have something. My friend that was married to the mole's cousin got it. After 5 years he told her that he wasn't dating (had already dumped the OW) because he was still getting over her. She told him... "That's nice". (then vented to me that she didn't want to hear it - she's much stronger than I and engaged now.)
My XMIL is sick with cancer and I've had a few stirrings and emotions for his family and my kids' grandma. The kids are trying to deal with her illness in the right perspective since they haven't seen her too much over the last 6 years. I can only urge them to call and to talk to their dad about it.
My X will never say anything. IMHO he's so damaged from all of this, not to mention the OW killing herself that he can only just keep moving forward.
Whoever said it... "only you can bring closure" is right. Similar to the early days, we can only control "us".
