Barb, It's been a long time since we've posted to one another, but here's my take on your situation. He could very well be reconnecting, but you won't know for sure for a while.
The comment to your daughter about missing your father and your daughter's uncle rang home w/me because my xh said the same thing to me. Barb, they do think about what they've left behind, but unfortunately, they are so far gone, they don't know or are ready to fix the problem.
Reconnection starts w/the children, family members, co-workers, pets, etc., long before they begin the final reconnection w/you, the lbs. Try not to get caught up in the whole reconnection bit. Continue living your life the way you have and just watch from afar. If this is a true reconnection, he'll continue reaching out to people around you. If it's just a touch and go, he'll disappear again. It's really a wait and see project in the works and that's why you can't allow his drama to suck you in.
Barb, I sincerely hope that you and your xh find a way to get along in a peaceful manner so that you both can enjoy your children and their experiences/adventures in life as they come along. It's h@ll when you have to go to functions and avoid each other because the feelings are so raw that you can't get passed it.
Take care of yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
