Sound advice so far. Especially the detatchment part. On that note I saw someone providing the link for Coping.org-- Detachement. I found it helpful to visit there and remind myself of the importance of detatching.
Also something to ponder. What ever stopped H from continuing the R with the kids while keeping you at arms distance? Nothing, right? My point is could you playing a headgame with yourself about even entertaining thoughts of a renewed relationship for the "sake of the kids?" I know I have entertained "for the sake of the kids" thoughts which has resulted in me doing things that just caused ME more pain.
Let's see if he goes the extra mile, and then some, for an extended period to prove his stripes have changed back to their original color.
(Karen- where's your new thread? The delay must mean you are working on some catchy thread title, right? )
Committed2Him- "C2H" All Things (Back from Spain!)...18
) 